Affection in Ilthalor

Common Traditional Acts:
Hair Braiding or Threading: The most intimate and revered expression of affection. To braid another’s hair is to honor their essence, to thread your fate into theirs. Braids are typically done in silence, and lovers may exchange silver or moonstone beads woven into the hair — a symbol of mutual devotion.
Among noble families, this act is reserved only for betrothed or lifelong partners.
Touching the Temple: A light touch to the side of the forehead means “I understand you.” Among bonded pairs, it is a vow of shared mind and memory.
Kiss to the Brow: A deeply sacred gesture, especially in public. It means “I see your soul and carry it in mine.” Given only once during Moon-binding ceremonies — and again if one partner is dying.
Finger Tracing (Wrist to Elbow):A subtle but romantic gesture. Done slowly, it means desire restrained — a promise, not yet acted upon.

Common Modern Acts:
- Public Kissing: Once considered wildly improper, now seen (by younger generations) as bold and romantic. Nobles still find it distasteful — particularly mouth-to-mouth kisses, which are traditionally private.
Open Embracing: Hugging and lounging together in public, especially between unmarried partners, is becoming more normalized — though the elder elven class still bristles at the sight.
The Finger Curl Invitation: A gesture borrowed from human courtesans — curling one finger slowly toward oneself while making eye contact is an unspoken invitation to follow, usually to bed. If the partner touches their own lips in response, it means yes.
Hair Pulling (playful): Where threading was once sacred, some newer lovers play with hair in teasing ways — tugging lightly, braiding messily, or tousling it in bed. One of the most scandalous modernizations.
Vulgar Flirting
Modern flirting has become bolder, louder, and deeply uncomfortable for traditionalists. Compliments on physique, whispered innuendos, and even public teasing are now common in lower courts and mixed-race gatherings.